In-laws or elderly parents moving in? Here’s how to make everyone feel more at home

Have you ever considered having your parents or in-laws move in? (Pexels stock image)

In lieu of retirement communities or assisted living, it seems more and more seniors are moving in with their children.

It makes sense for a lot of reasons: being close to family, cost savings, being much easier to care for and having less need to worry about aging parents.

There are some key elements to keep in mind if you are making the leap of creating an in-law suite to ensure that you provide privacy and comfort while also keeping them connected. This will require some balance and creativity to manage organization, convenience and the interior design aspect, said Alicia Smith, an interior designer and the Director of Marketing and Development for F&S Building Innovations.

Here are some things to remember:

You want ‘separate but together.’

In order to feel private, the in-law suite will need to have some separation from the rest of the home. But you don’t want your parents or in-laws to feel like you’ve created the Great Wall of China to keep them away.

If you have a basement or garage that can be converted, that is optimal, Smith said.

“If you are actually adding an addition, it is a good idea to create their own private entrance that allows them to come and go without having to access the rest of the home,” Smith added.

The family that eats together stays together.

Unless the in-laws start to feel like the hired help, you’ll want to cook and clean up after the family on a regular basis.

Adding a kitchen or even a smaller kitchenette with a small sink, refrigerator, small counter and stove is a great idea, Smith recommended.

“This gives the family options,” she said. “They can eat with you or choose to have breakfast, lunch or dinner in their own space. Togetherness is important, but can become too much of a good thing without the option to enjoy your own solitude from time to time.”

‘Go’ in peace.

A private bathroom is essential, Smith said.

Your new “roommates” having their own bathroom -- complete with a toilet, sink and shower or tub/shower combo, will help contribute to their sense of privacy and sense of being in their own home.

Retreat ... to your private retreat.

Include space to unwind and relax in your in-law suite. Making them truly feel at home will make the experience better for them and you.

“You don’t need to have a lot of extra space,” Smith said. “Consider just a nice sitting area that isn’t their bedroom, with comfy chairs, a TV and small table.”

Or add a small laundry closet.

You don’t have to add a fully laundry room, but if you have space, simply include a laundry closet with a compact stacked washer and dryer, Smith said.

This takes up minimal space but makes life easier for everyone – not only will this give the in-laws their own laundry space, but you’ll have less laundry on your plate, too!


The bottom line is this: Make the in-laws feel at home.

Sometimes you have the extra space that can just be dedicated to your in-laws, but if there are structural changes needed or interior design work required, contact a Class A Licensed General Contractor with CID interior designer on staff to help you through the process, Smith said.

Learn more about F&S Building Innovations here.